There’s been an online discussion going down on whether it’s okay to have friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship. This is such a trust issue! The part I found sad about this survey was that a good chunk of people said “It’s never appropriate!” Never appropriate? Say whaaaa?
Now despite the amount of people who don’t think it’s appropriate to have friends of the opposite sex, there are still a lot of people who think it’s quite fine!
Now, I mean there are rules that come with the territory, like… if you’re a guy in a relationship, you probably shouldn’t be having sex with a female friend, or helping her try on bras.
So let’s begin the discussion with these Friends of the opposite sex rules brought to you by PopSugar.
#1 – Boundaries… Talk about an awkward conversation with your significant other… “Hey honey bunny, I was wondering what things I can’t do with my lady friend Sally!” That’s probably not the best way to start this conversation, but it’s important to know what things might upset your lover! Like, perhaps they aren’t comfortable with you being alone with this friend, or discussing sexual topics. It’s best to set some boundaries and stick to them.
#2 – Benefit of the doubt… This is all about trust! If you’re the kind of person who jumps to the worst conclusions, you need to change that and give your partner the benefit of the doubt. You gotta have trust in a relationship, and if your lover betrays you… They weren’t worth your time to begin with, and you gotta move on.
#3 – Include each other… If you got a friend of the opposite sex that you like to spend time with, you should invite your partner along, so everyone can be friends! It’s when you try to keep this friend away from your partner, things will start looking a little sketchy. If you are spending time with a friend of the opposite sex alone, you should keep your partner in the loop, and tell them.
#4 – No double standards… You can’t go around having friends of the opposite sex, then getting upset if your partner has them. If you’re a guy hanging out with other girls, then you got to be okay with your girl hanging out with other guys! It’s as simple as that! So if you’re not comfortable with your girlfriend or boyfriend spending with the opposite sex, then you should take that into consideration before you do it.
Well, there are four rules of hanging out with the opposite sex while in a relationship. After typing all of this out, I think the moral of this story is trust and communication (Sounds cliché I know!), but if you love someone, and something as simple as talking about the company you’re going to be with makes them feel at ease, that’s not a lot to ask for. So talk, and don’t keep secrets, because that will be the end of your relationship.
Now let’s hit up the blog! Which of these rules do you believe should be most followed?